Is it better to date a fool than not date at all?

Oh hush I can't think of a better title. Maybe in a while I will....

Maybe I'm harder on prospective interests than most girls or maybe I set unrealistic standards but I just hate wasting my time.

I was never one of those people that have to go out on a weekend night or it's wasted. I actually enjoy being home by myself. The egocentric part in me feels that people who can't be alone must not like themselves too much. Honestly, maybe my ego is too big but I feel that I like myself; therefore it's acceptable for me to stay home at night with one of my favorite people (me for those in the back row not paying attention).

So that being said - why in the world would I go out with a guy unless he provided just as much entertainment as I could on my own? (Stop thinking dirty thoughts that part didn't even cross my mind until after I re-read this).

So enough of the background.....
I went out Friday night with a friend of mine. She dates.... a lot. It's kind of this year hobby, next year it might be soap-making. I use to wonder how she had so many opportunities to date. Now I know - she's not choosy. Or she isn't too quick to make judgments and is more open to anything. Depends on who you ask and how nice that person is.

The guy slides over buys her a drink, starts talking to her. Everything appears normal. He's with a friend and it obvious that he wants to continue with this conquest so he tries to get me to talk with his friend. "My friend thinks you're hot but he's shy." "My friend wants to talk with you." "My friend thinks you have great boobs."

Right there I'm done, it's over no use continuing this encounter and we should leave. Right? I mean here is this guy trying to pick up on my friend and he tells me I have nice boobs. Then he continues to tell us that he has a hot tub and he lives in a great part of the city. When I tell him where I live - he snubs it until I tell him specifically where I live. Then it's acceptable.

He's not winning me over (and his friend isn't saying too much anyways) and I'm looking for an escape route. I'm assuming my friend feels the same way. But I'm shocked - she's laughing and flirting and continuing on with the conversation. She acts like he is the greatest thing since online dating and gets his phone number.

He was drinking is her excuse when I call her out on it. He apologized for his behavior when she talked to him the next day. He was only joking around. OMG why am I so hard on him - I barely talked with him for ten minutes?

I can see it now. They go out on a date and he wow's her with an impressive restaurant (in his part of the "trendy" city) and he's staring at the waitress's chest when he orders from the wine list.

And there's my friend laughing just happy that she's out therefore the night isn't wasted. Why am I so judgmental? Why am I so hard on him? I mean come on she just wants to date him not marry him. Right?

Maybe that's the point why bother even wasting time going out with someone who you know you won't have a second date with or a third or even a relationship. What's the point?

As Read On Six Feet Under

RIP
Nate 1965-2005

Mystic Odes 833 by Rumi

Our death is our wedding with eternity.
What is the secret? "God is One."
The sunlight splits when entering the windows of the house.
This multiplicity exists in the cluster of grapes;
It is not in the juice made from the grapes.
For he who is living in the Light of God,
The death of the carnal soul is a blessing.
Regarding him, say neither bad nor good,
For he is gone beyond the good and the bad.
Fix your eyes on God and do not talk about what is invisible,
So that he may place another look in your eyes.
It is in the vision of the physical eyes
That no invisible or secret thing exists.
But when the eye is turned toward the Light of God
What thing could remain hidden under such a Light?
Although all lights emanate from the Divine Light
Don't call all these lights "the Light of God";
It is the eternal light which is the Light of God,
The ephemeral light is an attribute of the body and the flesh.
...Oh God who gives the grace of vision!
The bird of vision is flying towards You with the wings of desire